Getting motivated to make changes in our lives is not about will power, powering through, having the right strategy, or an ideal coach. I am not saying that these things do not benefit us. True and lasting change only happen from within ourselves and when we are in alignment with our heart’s desire. Once we truly choose to change from a space of inner clarity, the changes will come with much more ease and less effort. Sometimes it is not what we want or our intentions that are the most important element in achieving our heart’s desires, but in fact what is most important is the desire behind that. Uncovering your genuine desire and goals help you in moving forward, avoiding the pit falls of self-sabotage, frustration, false needs and feeling blocked or stuck. Our desires always tell us what we are needing. Is it a childhood dream or a childhood trauma that is fueling the need for change? Is this a soul base need or an ego need? What are you avoiding or protecting yourself from? Is the past repeating itself?
Do we seek success and achievement to prove we are good enough, or better than, or in reaction to misinterpreted beliefs? Are we trying to please the tyrant or critic, or perhaps rebelling against an idea or perception about ourselves or the world? What belief is running this desire? Is it the need to feel safe, to be smarter, and be recognized or accepted? Do we seek certain things because, if we achieve or have this particular thing, it means something about us? Does it validate your worthiness, your value, or are you attempting to correct a miss-perceived wrong or deficit? Thou it is natural to want validation of our value and recognizing we are lovable, what is important here is, what is running your subconscious? This is important because when we are aligned with our genuine needs, we can engage in a more powerful way to achieve those desires.
Throughout my life coach, spiritual counselor, and hypnotherapist practice, I have found that what my clients need is true clarity and direction. That their desire to change is the desire to heal, to grow, and to find true fulfillment whether is through a job, a relationship, or making good life decisions. To uncover the need to fulfill our heart’s desire, we must look further within to identify the belief that needs to be upgraded or transformed. Subconscious beliefs are always under the surface, driving our behavior and setting the emotional tone of how we go about acting out our needs. Many times, after many failed attempts to correct or improve, those goals elude us year after year, leaving us saddened, frustrated, and unmotivated.
Self-inquiry and reflection are powerful tools that can rocket-fuel our growth and motivate us forward with a steadier resolve. One thing to remember is that our needs are important, but perhaps the understanding of why change has been difficult, why has there been self-sabotage, or failed attempts, what residue of past wounds and trauma is still showing up, and why achieving our most desired goals elude us, can give us some clues about what kind of erroneous self-perceptions we are subconsciously holding. I always recommend that my clients keep a journal about our sessions and what they are discovering about themselves.
Here are a few simple questions you can ask yourself to uncover what is running or driving a certain desire or habit. So much can be revealed by asking these questions.
How would my life be if I achieved this?
How would I feel about myself?
What would it mean about me?
What belief would I need to release about myself to have this?
This of course will help us to heal, release, and change outdated beliefs and achieve our heart’s desire, fulfilling our true purpose with ease and grace.
And this is when and why we must look for inner guidance as well as wise counsel.
This is why I devote myself to opening the space for you to fulfill your heart’s desire and transforming your current state into a blissful life’s experience.